How each member of the family play an important role in raising a special needs child.

This blog is specifically written to ensure the importance of each member of our family in upbringing Sivaa. A few weeks back I remember how Anoop got little irked when everyone gave that little attention to me when Sivaa started skating on his own. He was the one who worked with Sivaa. He did a lot of tricks to make him get the balance. It was a tiresome process for both of them. Apart from all that I feel it’s the consistent practice that made all the difference. Whenever Anoop was out of town, I used to be his coach. When Sivaa got balance and was doing it himself, we planned a schedule accordingly. All these years we worked on something or the other but Sivaa wasn’t ready to cooperate.

But as we moved on to our new mission of making Sivaa balance cycling from last Saturday, Little Siddhu wants to pedal the same time. I scolded Siddhu for pedalling ahead of Sivaa out of my fear that Sivaa might loose balance and fall down. For Sivaa if he looses confidence in some thing, it’s very difficult to bring him back to initial stage. Siddhu got upset very soon and he stopped pedalling and went inside. I was so engrossed in Sivaas pedalling that I didn’t bother to it. After some time I saw him doing skating. Siddhu did skating for sometime and got himself ready for the online classes.

After the online class he came and sat near me, as I explained a few Ramayana stories to him. While explaining the story behind Ravanas ten heads, he immediately asked me something which was not related to the subject. He asked me as to why did I scold him? He didn’t let me answer…he continued… Do you know how chettan learned skating? Do you know how he learned the tricks so soon? He was getting very emotional in between but he continued … Seeing me doing he learned.. I used to skate ahead of him and show him the tricks. I was planning to do the same today. But you didn’t allow me.

That was actually true. When we started skating for Sivaa, we started for Siddhu too. Even though Siddhu learned soon, he used to practice during the same time. I remember how Sivaa would start crying when siddhu finishes his rounds and get inside. Realizing my mistake, I apologized to Siddhu and promised him that next day onwards they will be cycling together.

I know Siddhu plays a very important role in everything that Sivaa does. There bonding as of now is beyond explanation. Siddhu is always the best advocate for Sivaa. Even though sivaa breaks all his toys and some of which we never could replace, Siddhu forgets as soon as Sivaa says sorry. And Sivaa uses that word only with Siddhu. And even while doing paintings too I have seen Sivaa having a look at siddhus work. He doesn’t cooperate well if Siddhu is not there. And Siddhu became every happy when I told about his role in making Sivaa paint as well.

And thus we moved on to the squirrel story from Ramayana which highlight the significance of a small animal in building up the bridge across the river.

Apart from all our little efforts, willingness of Sivaa leaving aside all his deficits to join our hands make us feel the existence of almighty in healing process.

No one is supreme. No one is less.

Stay home, stay safe


Preetha Anoop Menon

2 thoughts on “How each member of the family play an important role in raising a special needs child.

  1. Hi Preetha,
    One of my college mates talked about your family last night. She sent me ur blog link today and I just finished reading today s blog. I am really glad you are taking so.much effort as a family to be the best family ever to ur beloved Sivaa. I am even more surprised to see the amazing bond between the siblings. Your family will surely be remembered in my prayers. God bless you all abundantly.


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